Let me ask you a question: Have you ever blocked off time for your personal life and then not taken it or moved it to a different day? Or have you ever found yourself thinking, “I have some free time, I might as well work”?
I previously shared a case study of a client who was very successful in establishing boundaries between her personal life and business, and how both arenas thrived as a result. Success stories like hers are one of the reasons I so enjoy my work supporting financial services professionals.
It’s very common to struggle with the process of enhancing your work/life boundaries, even if you very much desire that time off. It’s easy to tell ourselves, “You’d do better off getting caught up doing this than going to a movie.” But when you do take time off, you come back refreshed, inspired, capable being present for your clients and employees in your life. After having gotten used to the absence of boundaries in your life in order to achieve the level of success you wanted, some lose sight of the value in re-establishing those boundaries. (After all, you don’t get to be successful by taking vacations all the time!) However honoring these boundaries and taking time for yourself and your personal life is crucial.
Though having the guidance and structure of an expert coach is going to be the most efficient and painless way to achieve harmony between personal and business spheres, I want to share some high level directions on establishing (or reestablishing) boundaries in your own life.
Rather than thinking about it as though you have to give your financial services business less attention in order to give your personal life more attention, I recommend thinking about it in a different way: when your personal life (friends, family, hobbies and interests, etc) gets the energy and time it needs and deserves and your mind and spirit are nurtured, most likely you’ll actually be more effective at work and supporting your clients in the way that you intend to. Just like the advice we get on an airplane before takeoff to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others, we must also take care of ourselves by setting healthy boundaries in order to serve others to the best of our abilities.
If you’re feeling ready to establish boundaries and cultivate balance in your life, here are some points to consider:
- First, determine the larger reason why you’d like to have more boundaries in the first place. What are you going to do with that time that inspires you? Think about your “big why” for setting those boundaries. What will those boundaries and time off provide for you? More time with your family? Time to play golf, or do something else you enjoy that refreshes and rejuvenates you? Think about the big reason “why” and make sure it’s big enough to inspire the changes you’ll need to make.
- Once you have a clear sense of your “why,” look around for who you can delegate to, and determine everything you don’t need to touch personally that you can delegate. If you need additional people, look into that as well.
- Next, I recommend carving out the time on your calendar for a vacation, weekends off, or having dates with yourself for doing the things that you most want to do. Whether it’s sailing, playing golf, going up to the mountains with the family, or simply having quiet time to “chill,” get everything in place on the calendar. (We all know that if it’s not on the calendar it doesn’t happen, right?)
This can be quite difficult for many successful people. If you’re one of the many who struggle to respect the boundaries between your personal life and business but know you’d benefit from more balance, I invite you to reach out to me today. I would love to speak with you about how our work together could improve your life and your practice. Email me today: firstname.lastname@example.org
And if you are interested in this topic, I invite you to read a related post I think you might enjoy: “Time Out Equals More Money In.”